Personal Mindset

Grow

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When Sara took on her first PM role, she was eager to make an impact. She took charge of a platform migration effort, confident she could lead the project smoothly. However, Sara struggled to get buy-in from other teams whose cooperation was needed. Her authoritative style came across as abrasive.

As delays mounted, Sara blamed lack of alignment across the organization. In truth, the source of issues was her ineffective leadership approach. Though well-intentioned, Sara's overly-direct style had hindered bringing people together.

Moving forward, Sara needed to evolve her skills to lead through influence, not authority. While technically sound, Sara's capabilities were lopsided. She excelled at hard skills but needed to develop "soft" leadership abilities like emotional intelligence, communication, and empathy. Great leaders rally people through inspiration, not mandates. Sara needed to cultivate inclusive leadership, focusing on building trust, actively seeking input, and providing guidance through coaching.

Mission

Growth Mindset

When Satya Nadella became Microsoft's CEO in 2014, he courageously led a cultural transformation that reignited the company's growth. Despite Microsoft's stagnation and internal turf wars, Nadella saw vast unrealized potential. He moved away from a rigid, competitive culture of "know-it-alls", embracing a philosophy of "learn-it-alls" instead.

Nadella fostered a growth mindset oriented around multidisciplinary learning, creativity, and teamwork. He recognized that Microsoft's future lay in building platforms and services for a mobile-first, cloud-first world. Nadella broke down silos, encouraged collaboration across groups, and invested in future-focused areas. This shift to a learning culture empowered innovation and change.

Under Nadella's revitalized leadership, Microsoft rediscovered its soul, realigned to the future, and added over $1 trillion in market value. His courage to transform and connect people to purpose unleashed exponential value. Nadella exemplifies inspirational leadership stemming from a growth mindset and a vision of creating broad benefits through technology.

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A "growth mindset" believes talents can be developed and improved over time through effort and perseverance. A "fixed mindset" views talents as static and pre-determined.

Think of a past success, like excelling at a childhood math test. What story did you tell yourself about your accomplishment and abilities?

Growth mindset inner dialogue:

  • "I prepared for this test by studying hard and doing extra practice problems."
  • "Math skills take time and effort to develop - mastery won't happen overnight."
  • "I know with consistent practice and not giving up, I can incrementally get better at math."
  • "I don't expect math to come naturally to me, but I believe I can improve through dedication."
  • "This is an opportunity to learn what I need to keep growing."
  • "Challenging myself is how I'll become more skilled over time."

Fixed mindset inner dialogue:

  • "Math comes easier for smart kids - maybe I'm just not talented at it."
  • "No matter how much I practice, I don't seem to get better at math."
  • "I'm either a math person or I'm not - my skills are limited."
  • "Why is learning math so hard for me when it's effortless for others?"
  • "There's no point in trying to force myself to be good at math."
  • "I don't have strong innate math abilities like some other kids do."

The growth mindset centers on actions under one's control - the choices to practice, study, and persist. But the fixed mindset focuses on innate traits you either possess or lack - being "good" or "bad" at something. The good news is people can develop a growth mindset much like they can develop a product mindset.

Knowing the Difference between fixed and growth mindset - Confidently You

A growth mindset is important for a few reasons:

  • It encourages effort and perseverance. A growth mindset sees abilities as learnable through dedication. This fosters resilience to keep trying and improving.
  • It views challenges as opportunities. Rather than avoiding struggle, a growth mindset uses challenges to expand limits. This enables growth.
  • It creates motivation to learn. Believing abilities are malleable motivates actively developing skills through mentors, courses, reading, etc.
  • It unlocks potential. Growth mindset pushes people to go further than they thought possible by incrementally stretching their capabilities.
  • It prevents limiting beliefs about innate talent. The fixed mindset creates self-fulfilling prophecies based on perceived innate "gifts" or "weaknesses." Growth mindset frees people from these false limits.
  • It promotes learning from criticism. Rather than ignoring or being defeated by criticism, growth mindset uses it to improve.
  • It empowers fulfillment. Growth mindset helps people pursue learning and achievement oriented goals that provide lifelong fulfillment.

A growth mindset is essential for resilience, motivation, unlocking potential, and pursuing self-actualization. It's a key pillar for achievement by empowering people to believe they can always improve.

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Pay attention to how you approach situations. When facing something you've struggled with, shift from thinking "I can't do this" to "I can't do this yet" - a subtle but powerful mindset change.

Practice having a growth mindset with your team. While aptitudes should be acknowledged, also spotlight the hard work and determination that enable people to level up. This links achievement to growth-focused behaviors.

Intellectual Humility
As a product manager, it's vital yet challenging to remain open-minded. Even talented PMs with keen product sense will not conceive the best idea 100% of the time. Yet intellectual arrogance can cloud judgment. PMs who stubbornly believe their solutions are always right miss opportunities. Being right 70% of the time is not enough if you lack the humility to recognize the 30% of cases where others have better insights. Dismissing ideas counter to your own causes missed potential.

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Intellectual humility means acknowledging you may be wrong and carefully considering alternatives.

Even if a PM's idea is often right, silencing dissenting perspectives creates blind spots. The most effective PMs balance conviction with open-minded inquiry. They focus less on always being right and more on arriving at the rightest solutions. With humble leadership, PMs ensure diverse views are heard, creating space for marginal gains that collectively add up. A touch of uncertainty combined with exploratory discourse unlocks innovation.

Intellectual humility is key for product managers to encourage learning and collective growth. It involves recognizing the inherent limits in your own knowledge and being open to additional perspectives that may challenge your assumptions. Product managers who embrace intellectual humility don’t pretend to have all the answers. They are comfortable saying “I don’t know” and asking thoughtful questions to promote discussion and gain insights from the team.

Bringing it All Together
Intellectual Humility ties closely to adopting a growth mindset – the belief that abilities can be expanded through effort over time. Leaders with growth mindsets value learning and see the capabilities of both themselves and their teams as continually improvable. Rather than focusing on demonstrating their knowledge, intellectually humble, growth-oriented product managers excel at facilitating open and constructive dialogue across diverse viewpoints.

Intellectual humility enables teams to surface their best collective thinking, even when it contradicts the leader’s. By acknowledging gaps without ego and maintaining curiosity, product managers can create psychologically safe environments for creative debate and problem-solving. With humility and a growth mindset, product leaders unlock potential by guiding inclusive discussions that lead to wiser outcomes.

Stay Alert and Be Cautious
The more expertise and knowledge you gain, the harder it is to stay intellectually humble because the more you know, the easier it is to become overconfident. Don’t let some success make you close-minded. Be open to improving on frameworks, even if they worked in the past. True lifelong learners know their knowledge is limited compared to the ever-expanding universe of evolving information. They understand today’s solutions may need upgrading tomorrow.

Leaders who strive for excellence must balance their expertise with intellectual humility and a commitment to continual learning. They recognize that real achievement often builds upon the collective knowledge of others and avoid becoming rigid in their methods. Keeping an open mind and maintaining a beginner's curiosity, even in the face of past successes, are key to mastering new ideas and promote ongoing growth

💁‍♀️ Tip: Don't be overly attached to your ideas. Leave room for others to challenge you and give input.

Maturity
A mature leader is often viewed as responsible and wise, which cultivates trust and respect from others. To effectively guide a team, simply being mature isn't sufficient; you need to demonstrate signs of maturity.

Being a mature leader involves a range of personal qualities, including:

  1. Emotional Intelligence: The ability to understand and manage one's own emotions and empathize with others.
  2. Responsibility: Taking ownership of actions and decisions, and being accountable for the outcomes.
  3. Wisdom: Applying knowledge and experience to make well-informed decisions.
  4. Restraint: Exercising restraint and tolerance, particularly in tough situations, means controlling impulses and reactions, avoiding hasty conclusions or decisions.
  5. Integrity: Upholding strong moral principles and being honest in all dealings.
  6. Resilience: The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties and adapt to change.
  7. Empathy: Understanding and sharing the feelings of others, strengthening strong team relationships.
  8. Self-awareness: Being conscious of one's own strengths, weaknesses, and impact on others.
  9. Decisiveness: The ability to make decisions effectively and confidently.
  10. Effective Communication: Clearly conveying ideas and actively listening to others.
  11. Respectfulness: Treating others with dignity and consideration, regardless of the situation.
  12. Visionary Thinking: Having a clear, strategic vision for the future and inspiring others towards it.
  13. Respect for Expertise: A mature leader values team members' knowledge, skills, and contributions, recognizing they don't have all the answers and leveraging others' expertise for better decisions.
  14. Awareness of Context: A mature leader considers broader circumstances and actively seeks additional information or perspectives when needed.
  15. Seeing the Nuance: Mature leadership recognizes complexity, understands that issues are rarely black and white, and appreciates the gray areas that require careful consideration.
  16. Diplomacy: Effective leaders use tact and sensitivity to navigate difficult interactions and maintain relationships even in disagreements.
  17. Judgment: It involves making considered decisions based on analysis, wisdom, experience, and intuition, often weighing various factors and potential consequences.
  18. Fostering a Healthy Culture: Mature leaders create a workplace where respect, inclusivity, and collaboration thrive, setting a positive tone for the team.
  19. Discretion: A mature leader understands the importance of privacy and knows when to keep information confidential.
  20. Socially Appropriate Behavior: Leaders model professional behavior in language, demeanor, and actions in various social contexts.
  21. Controlling Your Emotions: Mature leaders manage their emotions to maintain professionalism and make objective decisions.
  22. Admitting Your Mistakes: Acknowledging errors demonstrates honesty and integrity, fostering transparency and accountability.
  23. Changing Your Mind: Mature leaders remain open to new information and perspectives, adjusting their views and decisions as needed.

These qualities collectively contribute to a leader's maturity and effectiveness in guiding and inspiring their team. Together, they form a comprehensive framework for mature leadership, emphasizing emotional intelligence, ethical behavior, and effective decision-making.

Keep Calm Under Pressure

Power of Calm in Leadership

Navigating the challenges of a Product Manager role is complex. When difficulties arise, your team will depend on your ability to maintain calm. Your response in these critical moments significantly influences the wellbeing of your team, the direction of the product, and your overall success.

'True Leaders Don't React'- Product Girl

Your emotional state is a key factor in team morale. It's important to recognize signs of excessive stress and understand the importance of self-care. Prioritizing your well-being through adequate sleep, proper nutrition, regular exercise, and practices like mindful meditation can have lasting benefits. True leadership isn't about reacting impulsively; it's about staying composed. Demonstrating this calmness portrays you as a confident and capable leader, someone your team can rely on and aspire to work with, especially in challenging times.

Growth Mindset

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Moving Forward with Confidence
Imposter Syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals question their achievements and worry about being revealed as less competent or knowledgeable than others perceive them to be, even in the face of clear success and capability.

It's common among high-achievers who struggle to accept their achievements, often attributing them to luck or external factors rather than their own skills and hard work. This internal experience can lead to significant anxiety and a continuous cycle of self-doubt.

If you're grappling with Imposter Syndrome, it's crucial to recognize that these feelings don't reflect your true capabilities. The very fact that you're concerned about being competent is often a sign of your dedication and conscientiousness. Remember, feeling unqualified doesn't equate to being unqualified. Your achievements and skills are valid and worthy of recognition.

To combat these feelings, one effective strategy is to surround yourself with positive influences. Engaging with supportive colleagues, friends, or peers who understand and acknowledge your worth can be incredibly affirming. Their positive reinforcement can help counterbalance your self-doubt and provide a more realistic perspective of your abilities and accomplishments.

Additionally, working with a trusted mentor can be immensely beneficial. A mentor who is familiar with your field can offer invaluable guidance, help you set realistic expectations for yourself, and provide a sense of grounding. They can also help you recognize and celebrate your achievements, helping you to internalize your successes. A mentor’s perspective can be a powerful antidote to the feelings of fraudulence and self-doubt that characterize Imposter Syndrome.

Remember, the journey to overcoming Imposter Syndrome is about learning to trust in your own abilities and understanding that it's okay to accept and own your successes. You are more capable than you believe, and with the right support and mindset, you can continue to grow and excel in your endeavors.

Here are some examples of imposter syndrome to look out for:

  • Hesitation to Apply for Promotions: Doubting one's own abilities and qualifications, leading to avoiding applying for higher positions or new job opportunities.
  • Reluctance to Share Ideas in Meetings: Fearing that their ideas are not good enough or will be judged, resulting in remaining silent during team discussions.
  • Not Seeking Help or Clarification: Avoiding asking for help or clarification on tasks for fear of seeming incompetent or not knowledgeable enough.
  • Shying Away from Leadership Roles: Feeling unqualified to lead projects or teams, leading to declining opportunities for advancement in leadership.
  • Avoiding Networking Opportunities: Feeling like they don't belong or aren't skilled enough to engage with peers or industry professionals in networking settings.
  • Undermining Own Achievements: Attributing success to luck or external factors, rather than recognizing their own skills and hard work.
  • Overworking to Compensate: Working excessively to prove worth or to avoid being perceived as inadequate, often leading to burnout.
  • Difficulty Accepting Praise: Feeling uncomfortable or undeserving when receiving compliments or positive feedback on their work.

Imposter Syndrome can significantly impede personal and professional growth. It manifests in various forms, from hesitation in seeking advancement opportunities to a reluctance in participating actively in collaborative settings. This syndrome often leads individuals to undervalue their contributions and capabilities, resulting in missed opportunities and decreased well-being. Recognizing these patterns is the first step in overcoming Imposter Syndrome, empowering one to embrace their achievements, seek growth, and engage more confidently in their career and personal life.

Embrace the Unknown
Embracing ambiguity is an essential skill in product management, particularly as one progresses to tackle more complex and nuanced projects where clear-cut answers are often elusive. When it comes to product development, ambiguity isn't just a challenge to overcome; it's a fundamental aspect of the job that, when approached correctly, can lead to innovative solutions and breakthroughs.

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As product managers take on increasingly intricate work, they find themselves navigating a landscape where the path to success isn't linear or clearly defined. This ambiguity can stem from various factors: rapidly evolving market trends, changing customer needs, technological advancements, or even internal team dynamics. In such scenarios, the traditional playbook of rigid strategies and predefined paths may not suffice. Instead, product managers need to cultivate a mindset that thrives in uncertainty, making room for experimentation, adaptability, and continuous learning.

The key to thriving in this environment is to view ambiguity not as a barrier but as an opportunity for creativity and growth. It's a chance to explore new ideas without the constraints of predetermined outcomes. Product managers should embrace the iterative process of hypothesis, experimentation, and refinement. This approach not only stimulates innovation but also builds resilience and flexibility in the team.

Moreover, effective communication plays a crucial role in managing ambiguity. Keeping team members aligned, informed, and engaged in the face of uncertainty is vital. This involves setting clear goals and expectations, even when the solutions are not immediately apparent. It also means creating an environment where team members feel safe to voice opinions, share insights, and collaborate on finding the best path forward.

Ultimately, navigating ambiguity in product management is about balancing the unknown with strategic thinking and a willingness to adapt. By accepting that there is no one "right" answer, product managers can lead their teams to explore a range of possibilities, learning and adapting as they go. In doing so, they not only overcome the challenges of ambiguity but also harness its potential to drive innovation and success.

Reflections
When you get upset with a coworker for making a mistake and it makes you have to jump in and fix things, you're thinking from a "below-the-line" point of view. This is when we tell ourselves stories where we're the good guy, the victim, or the bad guy, and we focus on finding someone to blame or trying to be right. It's okay to think this way for a little while because it helps us deal with our emotions, but it's not helpful for actually solving problems or moving forward.

When you're ready to really solve the problem, it's better to switch to an "above-the-line" way of thinking. This means taking a step back and looking at things differently. You start asking questions like, "Why might my coworker have done what they did?" or "Could I have done something differently?" This helps you understand the situation better and work towards a solution, rather than just pointing fingers.


Final Words 📖

Developing an empowering personal mindset is foundational to unlocking one's leadership potential. This involves embracing a growth mentality that views abilities as continually expandable through dedication. It means exemplifying maturity by matching passion with equanimity. And it requires intellectual humility to explore counter perspectives and create psychologically safe environments for teams to engage in robust debate and collective growth.

An empowering personal mindset is critical for product managers to maximize their leadership potential. This mindset involves embracing a growth mentality that views abilities as continually developable, not fixed. It requires intellectual humility to balance conviction with openness in making decisions. And it necessitates emotional maturity to earn respect and model values consistently, especially under pressure.

Developing an empowering mindset is an ongoing process involving continuous self-reflection, education, and commitment. It acts as a driver for significant growth by promoting positive transformation, rather than acting as a hindrance. This perspective enables product managers to go beyond basic tactical tasks, transforming into motivational strategists who encourage others to collectively accomplish extraordinary achievements.

In the end, leadership is not about having all the answers but rather nurturing those answers in others. It stems not from infallible genius but perpetual growth. True leaders focus less on proving themselves right and more on creating environments where everyone can contribute meaningfully. An empowering personal mindset lays this foundation. When product managers lead with humility, maturity and an expansive worldview, they transform teams and organizations. It all begins with believing in boundless potential for growth.


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